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by Veena Choudary

Life coaching is for you if there is a book you want to write, work
on your marriage, travel, sell your knitting online, or do anything
that scares you right now. A life coach is someone who helps you
find clarity and direction on making your dream come true. Our
dreams should scare us a little bit. However most of us do not as-
pire towards our dreams because of fear and stories we tell our-
selves about why it is not possible. Life coaching helps you bust
those myths and hone in on your goals.
Life coaches are trained to ask questions that help you identify
why you don’t have what you want. They hold a mirror to your
brain. They remind you that you are whole and complete exactly
as you are on the days when you don’t feel like it. And we all have
those days of not enoughness.

Life coaching is not for the faint of heart. It’s also not for those who
love the hard way. I know because I was that person. I thought
hard work was the only path to success. Yes we can do hard things
but the journey does not need to be difficult. With life coaching, I
was able to make the changes I needed in my life to start living it
more fully. The best coaches do not tell you what to do but help
you find the answer. You can ask for that raise confidently, learn
to love your job or marriage or leave one you hate, become a more
present parent or spouse, travel to that country you want to, write
that book, trek the Appalachian trail, start your business and so
much more. It sounds cliche but living in the most advanced and
safe country in the world- the only thing holding us back from our
dreams is ourselves. So if you want it, you can have it. A life coach
can help you.

Life coaching is not therapy or trauma management. A good life
coach will be able to refer you to additional support if you need it.
Life coaching is to help people who are functioning well to reach
their next level. It can work well with therapy but is not a sub-
stitute. It is typically conducted via Zoom in the comfort of your
home. Good life coaches recognize that we need time to work on
our old programming and habits and ideally you want to start with
at least six months. A good coach will customize the sessions to
meet your life and needs. Life coaching is not expensive. Not fol-
lowing your dreams costs you your life. Working with a life coach is
one of the most cost-effective ways for you to truly grow into the
person you want to show up as. Most life coaches offer a compli-
mentary session to determine if you are a good fit for each other.
Life coaching is not a regulated industry and coaching standards
can be fluid. A good coach will help you uncover the cause of the
problem vs treating the symptom.

Growth can be scary on your own but it does not have to be. A life
coach can help you enjoy the process. Be curious. Ask questions.
And don’t take advice or heed the opinion of someone who has
not tried something new or pursued a goal while making your deci-
sion. If it’s good enough for Oprah, it’s good enough for me- that’s
what I told myself when I broke free from my attachment to hard.
Life is beautiful and it is calling you to live it. Set up that free con-
sultation and make your dream come true. You got this! :)

Veena Choudary
I am a mom, an author, and a life coach. I
have endured losing a child, a difficult di-
vorce and parent as a single mother. I am
a resilient person who learned from life.
I can help you. Please feel free to con-
tact me to ask any further questions or
work with me. You can find me at www.
infinitelycapable.com or 203-626-2218
Photo credit: Nicole Mele Photography

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